Monday, March 29, 2010

Loving the American Way - from an hispanic perspective

When two persons of different cultures get into a relationship, the differences are irrelevant till some months has passed and the initial pink mist of love clears out to see the other human real shape. How much one hold a concern about the things you don't like about your partner, when everything used to be perfect or relatively perfect but then those things are not acceptable now. How much dedication can you put into a relationship to the point of forget about ourselves yet this isn't valued. Coming from a culture of passion and passion drive decisions it's hard to adapt to a more cold shower and meticulous approach of interpersonal interactions. Maybe try to hard to please someone can actually backfire? Yes. When someone tells you that be together and spend time together all the time can and will asphyxiate him, when it seems that you don't have that many things in common with each other after all, when you try to spend time with your partner's friends although you don't have anything in common and it's boring to death, this it's when love too much can backfire. Your partner realize how miserable you're or seems to be and that's how it's suggested you spend time with your own friends and/or doing your own things. When seeing each other way to much it's a problem and that person ask you for space so they can miss you.

Here's two things, there's nothing wrong with this yet in some ways it open your eyes and in some hurts you. So, like a freezing water splash on a hot surface it will cause vapor an then the temperature will drop, so its does to one's heart. The feelings are still there yes, but things has changed inside? yes. You adjust and adapt to the new scenario but you feel different inside. Maybe it will take some more time to feel cherished but at this moment I feel hard inside. Yes, I'm using first person now, because obviously I'm talking about myself. Doubt that my boyfriend will ever find and/or read this blog so it's all okay. This days without being together had changed him, we spent last night together and this morning he seems way more loving than in past weeks but he has asked me if somethings wrong because I'm not quite myself because I'm not. Of course I told him everything it's fine. The talk we had about this was Wednesday night at his place, he wanted to spend the night with me Friday and I created plans with my friends so I had an excuse to make him wait more time for me. Most likely I'll do it again, in a way to give him what he wants the opportunity to miss me, only that I will make sure to give him more that he's expecting. This could go either way, either he will then demand more time with me or he'll be glad about the situation. Note, he does text everyday so we're not completely disconnected although, for me, that's not enough.

The big question is, would I be happy and feel loved again in a satisfying way? or I will eventually loose my feelings? It haven't been a full week of this events happening and my mind can't keep stop pondering this questions. Nobody it's perfect, not me an not him but he have so many good things to be a keeper...